If you are an adult on the receiving end of sexual attention from a minor, the only appropriate response is a firm, non-negotiable âno.â Not an âI would, but the darn lawâŠâ not, âmaybe when youâre eighteen,â a âno.â It is your job as the adult to be responsible, and to not abuse the power differential between you. What the minor wants is irrelevant to your obligations. The only appropriate response is âno.â
âJust because a girl knows how to imitate a woman, does not mean sheâs ready to do what a woman doesâ
okay, so everyone has set up the main rivalry in Black Panther as Killmonger vs TâChalla. And obviously thatâs the main narrative structure of the story, not arguing with that. But I feel like from a purely character arc standpoint, the actual battle is Killmonger vs Nakia, and she obliterates him.
Erik Stevens is a CIA covert operative; basically, heâs a spy. So is Nakia. And when you look at their various actions through the lens of âwho accomplished their mission better?â, it becomes pretty clear that Erik spent 20-some years preparing to destabilize TâChallaâs reign, including having inside knowledge and a birthright on his sideâŠand Nakia spent roughly 36 hours successfully destabilizing his reign, in turn, with nothing but her incredible ability to network disparate resources.
Letâs just review her actions over those 36 hours okay:
– Gets the surviving members of the royal family successfully out of danger within seconds of the coup (aka the only living people with a competing blood claim to the throne aka the greatest threat to his regime)
– Sows enough doubt in the âgreatest warrior in the countryâ about Killmongerâs ability to lead that when the time comes, Okoye and the entire Dora Milaje all defect (eventually saving hundreds of lives)
– Steals a heart-shaped herb from under his nose as heâs identifying it as the most important power resource in the country and trying to prevent it falling into anyone elseâs hands, lol too late buddy
– Immediately identifies the person in the country with the best platform to mount a counter-insurgency (MâBaku), identifies what it will take to get him on their side, and casually resolves a centuries-long division in their country while sheâs at it
– Correctly predicts Killmongerâs opening move of distributing vibranium to the war dogs, and assists in a comprehensive strategy that shuts it down coldâa strategy they wouldnât have been able to use if she hadnât gotten Shuri, Ross, and TâChalla all in one place with the right information at the right time
As soon as TâChalla is back she takes an immediate backseat again (she said it herself, sheâs a spy, not the leader of an army), but, seriously, if you have to pinpoint the one person who took down Killmonger, itâs undeniably her. And she did it by clearly demonstrating that her skills as a war dog are miles ahead of his as a CIA agent (due in part, Iâm sure, to being trained in a superior country, but also sheâs Just That Good).
Nakia and Killmonger also both want Wakanda to use its resources to help others â but Nakia thinks in terms of âletâs admit more refugeesâ while Killmonger goes for âletâs build an empire.â
Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They arenât inherently bad people, but they arenât the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you canât destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful â you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
i constantly hear people talk about male scientists (particularly professors) in terms of their sheer intelligence and how theyâre on another level and just super smart and blah blah blah but I donât think Iâve ever heard a woman scientist described in those terms, even ones who have pushed their fields forward immensely
like in general I donât think Iâve ever heard a woman described as a genius
Same! And I frequently hear women described as âsweetâ in professional settings. Like⊠yeah, ok, but what does that tell me about her research? And why do you choose to tell me that about her but when you talk about men you say things like âHe discovered X,â or âHis work is on Y.â Like Iâve heard women who are incredible pioneers in their field described as sweet as if itâs the be-all end-all of their personal and professional qualifications and at this point, I donât want to hear anyone referring to any women in professional situations as sweet even if theyâre just describing personalities in general.
You can type in any word, and see a chart of how often that particular word shows up in student evaluations for male/female professors, by field. The charts for âgenius,â âbrilliant,â and âsweetâ are unsurprising, and sad.Â
see genius:Â
on a related note, I read a study recently about how perceptions of genius keep women and people of color out of fields that are associated with innate brilliance. the article is here but itâs behind a paywall, I think. the main takeaway though, is that: âwomen are underrepresented in fields whose practitioners believe that raw, innate talent is the main requirement for success, because women are stereotyped as not possessing such talent. This hypothesis extends to African Americansâ underrepresentation as well, as this group is subject to similar stereotypesâ
Yesterday I went to buy some yarn and so you know how annoying it is when fucking people put those stupid bullshit âdonât use this, wool is murderâ PETA stickers on the label?
First of all, stop defacing stock in someoneâs store. Youâre not clever or saving the planet or anything. Youâre making it hard for customers to shop and see the info they need on the label (yardage, weight, dye lot)⊠Youâre making employees spend hours peeling the damn things off, and in some cases, youâre causing damage to the label and or yarn itself. That means loss to the company, which affects employees who probably make minimum wage, you shit bags. You want to make change happen? Contact corporate, you fuckhead. Thatâs where decisions are made.
Second of all, wool is not murder. Are you fucking stupid? (Obviously the answer is yes). Itâs a fucking haircut for a sheep. Theyâve been domesticated so long that if we donât sheer them, itâs bad. Yes, some sheep donât live in ideal conditions. Got a problem with that? Going to a yarn store and putting stickers on things isnât going to change it or the minds of customers. For fuckâs sake, you absolute cockwomble, go to the yarn companies. Make them use wool providers that use humane conditions for their yarn, like A LOT OF YARN COMPANIES DO.
And third of all.
You. You precious, empty-headed little shitnugget. You complete and total sawdust-for-brains.
You put your fucking stickers all over acrylic yarn.
Thereâs no fucking wool in there. Itâs all synthetic fiber. Basically, itâs plastic.
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