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djchika:

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately saying that it’s okay to cut out family or it’s okay not to be around family if it’s detrimental to your mental health and it’s great! But also

I’m (South East) Asian it doesn’t work that way

Our culture is centered around family. Missing out on family events is sacrilegious. Putting your parents in a home when they’re old is a sin. Living at home is not an embarrassment. Instead your parents will insist you stay until you’re married (sometimes even after).

Doesn’t mean holidays and other family obligations aren’t difficult and distressing.

So if you’re Asian and have to be around family this holiday season (or any other time, really) remember to take a moment in the bathroom if you need to breathe, message friends who understand, hug the family pet if you have one.

But most of all, being around family, even when they make you want to pull your hair out, is okay too. You’re not weak for not cutting them out of your life.