arionwind:

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Some extra details from the article:

In a budget bill, a funding committee has introduced a clause which states that federal government cannot end contracts with foster care and adoption agencies just because they discriminate, and yearly funding will be cut by a full 15% to any state which penalizes foster care and adoption agencies for discriminating.

Now. The article doesn’t go into exactly how this is going to have the kind of negative impact they’re predicting, so I’m going to, just so you understand that the first part of that clause is somehow actually the less horrifying one.

There are waaaaaaay too many kids in the foster care system (that’s where 90% of the kids waiting to be adopted are), way more than state level child protective services can handle. This is in part because of funding (it can be very expensive to keep a CPS department fully staffed). So they contract out to private agencies, usually non profits, to place kids with higher levels of need. You’re not going to hear me arguing that these agencies are perfect but a lot of them, seriously a lot, are REALLY GOOD. They’re often charities, they often specialize in various intensive mental health care and provide strict rules, guidelines, and training to any families and staff on board, a lot of these agencies do really fucking good work. And these agencies are critical. They’re almost universally taking in exactly the children that are so hard to place anywhere else (including adoptive homes) and they make sure those kids are safe, that they have free access to quality mental health treatment, that they are prepared to age out if that’s what’s going to happen. And most of the people who work at these programs take really low wages because these are charities and their funding is even more restrictive than the state, but they’re doing this because there are children in the system who need them, because there are a lot of bad things that can and do happen in the system and all they can do is keep protecting kids and keep fighting to prevent those things.

Now lets talk about the not so good agencies. The ones who may or may not be non-profits. The ones that are usually run on socially conservative values of family and discipline despite mountains of evidence and research showing how that directly leads to the kinds of bad things that can and do happen to kids in foster care. The kind that run overcrowded homes and discriminate. Where there is one emotional abuse against a child, there is ALWAYS more. And any of these agencies which gets penalized by the state that contracts with them could now argue it was because of the discrimination. And if they argue that successfully, THE ENTIRE STATE’S ALREADY MEAGER FUNDING GETS CUT BY AN ENTIRE 15%.

15% is a lot, folks. 15% is the difference between whether or not any child can be placed in an intensive support agency’s care ever again. A state that gets punished like this sees every single agency and department within it crippled, unable to serve a full additional 15% of the children they currently serve.

Except they can’t opt out of it. Because these are fucking children. Children without homes, children ripped from families for good or for ill, children with trauma with anxiety with high medical involvement with an enormous risk added to their future simply by virtue of having gone through a system that is already desperately overworked and underfunded. So the agencies don’t stop serving any children. Instead they cut pay to staff, they put fewer kids in the level of support they need, they turn a blind eye to smaller infractions by foster parents and staff because the kid says they want to stay and they can’t afford to disrupt the placement. Kids fall through the cracks. Kids run away and the resources to go looking for them aren’t there. Kids get caught up in abusive or cult like relationships with people who show care and affection to them because they’re not getting enough of it.

Don’t get me wrong, my heart is broken that the one fear I spent my entire childhood and adulthood reassuring myself I wouldn’t face – being told that my sexuality, my partners’ my parents’ made me an unfit parent – is at risk of becoming my reality. I’m fucking devastated by that. I’ve spent a lifetime trying to train myself out of the terror created by watching my mother’s friends’ kids ripped away from them because they were lesbians or bi and that made them unsafe to their own truly beloved children. The guilt created by knowing that if I ever spoke up about the abuse in my home it would be blamed on the sexuality my mom and I shared, and not on her actions. But honestly? In the end? This has a much bigger impact than just that grief. This effects far more children then the ones who would have been adopted or fostered by queer parents.

Which is why it’s so important that we make this a priority. This budget hasn’t been approved yet. This isn’t it’s final draft, and there’s still time for this clause to be written out. So please. For all the kids out there waiting for homes. Add this to what I’m sure is your ever growing list of things to write to congress about. Even if we vote everyone out in 2018 and 45 with them in 2020, two years of these kids’ suffering is too long. One year is too long. Anything more than they already go through is too long.

Just for reference: the federal minimum drinking age is enforced by similar budget incentives. Only states will lose just 8% of federal highway funding if they set the age below 21. This measure is just about double that incentive, which is astounding and draconian as these things go.

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micdotcom:

Watch: The “pink tax” is secretly costing women thousands — and not just at the drug store

Yooooooooooo

Women pay more for products. Men pay more for clothing.

Do men really pay more for clothes?

Yea, seriously. Shirts, sneakers, jeans, socks…etc. Ask your male friends how much they pay for a pair of descent jeans. It’ll blow your mind. 

At least their pants have fucking pockets tho

Men pay more for clothing.”

(Target)

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Are you sure?

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Are you

(Walmart)

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ABSOLUTELY SURE??

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BECAUSE I’M NOT ENTIRELY CONVINCED

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LIKE AT ALL

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THAT MEN HAVE IT HARDER

(Victoria’s Secret)

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OH AND SHOULD I BRING UP PANTIES WHILE I’M AT IT? I am a firm believer of the “fuck you, I’ll wear briefs that don’t give me a wedgie, I don’t care if they’re not sexy” policy, but a lot of women are expected to wear panties and thongs because GASP WOMEN MUST BE BEAUTIFUL AT ALL TIMES. Here’s a screenshot of some Victoria’s secret panties!

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Wow. It’s almost as if there’s a pattern here.

Women are expected to buy more clothing, and literally all of it is more expensive, so fuck all of you.

*HAMMERS THE REBLOG BUTTON*

Fucking infuriating.
And, NO ONE pays more for clothes than fat women. Tired of it.

Have you ever stepped on a Torrid? $50-$80 for a blouse.

^^^^^

Yup it totally gets more costly when you’re not model thin.

Woah

I’m here to confirm the fat girl comment…. decent fitting, CUTE plus size shit is just expensive as fuck.

$38 for a fucking t-shirt at Torrid.

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gaysfinest:

Don’t tell your daughter that when a boy is mean or rude to her it’s because he has a crush on her. Don’t teach her that abuse is a sign of love.

My mom always taught me yell or fight back. Boys would be mean and I would yell back. I would get my ass pinched and I would smack them as hard as I could.

Who alway got in trouble? Me.

They would call my mother and she always came in and lectures my teachers and threatened to sue for making her miss work and treating me poorly.

She always taught my brothers to respect women. The only fights my brothers ever got in was defending women from someone else.

The school tried to call my father once instead of my mother on us. He came in in his full preacher outfit (being a preacher and all) and gave them an entire sermon on what would Jesus day of he was called in. They decided dealing with my mom was better.

I think my favorite story of this is when some kid snapped my bra and I turned around, didn’t even think about it, and punched that little motherfucker right in the nose.

So naturally, I end up in the principal’s office, refusing to apologize. 

“He shouldn’t have put his hands on me and I wouldn’t have hit him!” That’s the only thing I was saying.

These people had the unfortunate luck of catching my dad at home, instead of my mom. So he comes fucking sauntering in there, like he’s Clint fucking Eastwood in some western movie and looks at me. 

“Melissa, did you punch him?” 

“Yes.” I said. 

“Why?” 

“Because he snapped my bra strap.” 

And he turns his squinty eyed glare to the principal and says, “You’re telling me my daughter is in trouble because that squirrely looking kid put his hands on her and she chose to defend herself? That’s what you are saying to me.” 

“Well, sir-” The man kind of stuttered because my dad is kind of intimidating in the quiet sort of way that kind of whispers in the back of your mind that this person could be dangerous. “Melissa did make it physical.” 

“No. That kid put his hands on my daughter. Are you saying my daughter cannot defend herself when some boy decides to put hands on her? Is that what you are teaching my girl?” 

I didn’t get suspended that day.  

*slow clap for excellent parenting*

This is the parent I want to be omg

I went to a nun school. 

The nuns there were like, so rad. 

It was a party organized for the end of the school year, and I was helping in the kitchen to prepare stuff with a nun and a bunch of little girls. There was one of the girls’ little brother who was there. 

There was a little girl who was carrying a bowl of tomato sauce and was going outside, but the boy was just in front of her and he slammed the door in her face. She dropped the bowl on the floor and got all messy. 

So what happened? 

The nun went outside, took the boy by the arm, and gave him an epic speech going around the lines of: “Would you treat the Virgin Mary like that, young man?” “Nnnnno…” “Then treat every girl like she’s the Virgin Mary.” Not only the boy had to apologize to the little girl, but he also had to clean up and he was put on kitchen duty for the rest of the day. 

Then another day, in catechism class (I was a in a girls’ school, mind you), the nun was there telling us: “If a guy touches you in a way you don’t like, punch him in the face. It’s not a sin against charity. On the contrary, you’re being charitable by showing him he’s sinning by impurity and you’ll save him from going to hell.” 

So I was at my desk during class looking like this: 

Reblogging for awesome dads and kickass nuns.

If the Catholic church were run by like 90% of the nuns I know, the world would be a much better, much cooler place.

notyourdaddy:

Gideon Mendel’s The Ward

Memories from the heart of the Aids crisis shows true love in a time of terrible tragedy.

These heartbreaking and incredibly moving images show the affection and love shown during the height of the Aids crisis. Photographer Gideon Mendel’s project The Ward began in 1993 when he spent a number of weeks on the Charles Bell wards in London’s Middlesex Hospital. All the patients on the ward were dying with the knowledge that there was no cure for the disease. During this time antiretroviral medications were not available and patients on the ward faced the prospect of an early death.

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bengaliprincess:

Si la migra aparecen en su puerta

  • no abras la puerta. Estate calmado. Usted tiene derechos.
  • Si piden entrar, pregunten si tienen una orden firmada por un juez.
  • Si dicen que lo tienen, piden verlo.
  • Una orden de administración de ICE (formulario 1-200, 1-205) no les permite entrar a su hogar sin su consentimiento.
  • Si no tienen una orden firmada por un juez, usted puede negarse a dejarlos entrar
  • Si se fuerzan, no resistan. Dile a todos en la residencia que permanezcan en silencio.
  • Si usted es arrestado, permanezca en silencio y no firme nada hasta que hable con un abogado.

Yes, but as a note:

You must DECLARE AFFIRMATIVELY that you are invoking your right to remain silent!! If you just stay silent, you haven’t actually invoked the right. It’s an annoying legal thing, but you have to speak in order to stay silent. All you have to do is say “I am exercising my right to remain silent” (and then DO remain silent after that!).

That last bit is due to a somewhat recent Supreme Court decision.